Me with the belly:
Me with Wendy. She has on a purple diaper, but you can’t see it.
Me with the belly:
Me with Wendy. She has on a purple diaper, but you can’t see it.
No picture at this particular moment, but I’m sure I’ll get one or two out tomorrow. We came home today from the hospital. We had marvelous nurses and doctors that took care of us…it was really good to be able to recover and get to know Wendy in those few days. No internet access, so it was really just us getting to know each other and me recovering. I’m glad for the medication they’ve given me…it is quite painful in my sides because the doctor’s assistant had to push on my sides to get her out during the surgery. It’s amazing how much better I’m doing now than even a day ago. We’re trying to figure out a pattern of sleep, wake, feed, and change diaper. It’s pretty much constantly that every 2 hours or so. Thankfully, we have Zach’s parents here to help with the housework. Yep, just trying to get used to all these new things happening. It is such a joy to have Wendy. Also, I love watching Zach with her. They make a good team, and Zach is a natural dad. Oh, and in case you didn’t notice, in the last post’s picture, that little limb off to the side is her foot…it likes being up there…kind of like how it was in the womb! TTL.
Hi. This is Zach, blogging on behalf of Stacy, who is taking a nap. (Also, she is in the hospital which has no internet access.)
As you can infer from the title of this post, our daughter Wendy June was born yesterday morning by c-section at 10:50AM. Here’s a picture:
Wendy is a quiet little girl who is figuring out how to nurse. Her hobbies include: looking around, sleeping, and pooping. Not much of a crier.
Stacy is doing well, but is very tired. I don’t think she slept at all last night.
Well, that’s the basic info. Sorry this is such a short post, but we wanted to get the word out I’m sure there will be more later!
Sunday morning, Zach and I and Teddy went down to the Rappahannock and got to squish our feet in the sand. I have had this odd desire to feel wet sand-type things. Like sand, baking soda, powdered sugar, etc. I know some pregnant women get the craving to eat it…I just want to feel it and rub it between my fingers and toes. This was so great!!!!
We also decided to go to Snead’s Asparagus Farm, which had been turned into a harvest wonderland. It was very low-key fun with lots of little kids running around. There were lots of pumpkins, produce, and kettle corn (we finished that whole bag). Horses, llamas, and a barn full of rope swings. Basically, we got to walk around, talk, and enjoy each others’ company. There was a corn maze, but it was for, say 4-5 year olds. Not at all like the ones that take hours to go through. Here is a sunflower at the farm:
So this was our last weekend as single married people without kids. I am really nervous about tomorrow’s scheduled c-section, but I must choose to look over the surgery/prep part of it to the birthday of this baby. Even though it is shorter and basically less work for me, a surgical birth seems the harder of the 2 ways to be born. I find myself getting jealous of people who have had the opportunity to go through the trial of labor…but I know this is also a trial for me. And for Zach. We were so “prepared” for a normal birth for our child, and then over the last month, we’ve had to change our perspective completely. Going from hypnobirthing and a possible homebirth to a scheduled c-section is quite a big change. Part of me wonders if this is the right thing to do. Both my mom and aunt had breech deliveries and their babies/deliveries turned out fine. Why can’t I do that? I don’t know. I just don’t feel safe delivering a breech baby because the doctors don’t know how to do it these days. Plus, I don’t think she’s staying frank breech (the easiest position for a breech delivery). I think her legs are moving up and down.
People keep telling me to wait until I go into labor…she could turn during labor. But most of the babies that turn during labor or right before don’t go a full 40 weeks. I’m already at 40 weeks. So, let me just say what we’ve done to encourage her to turn, just so I can clear my conscious and reiterate to myself that we’re doing the right thing. Lots of swimming, laying inverted on the ironing board, frozen veg on her head, soothing music/sounds/flashlight in my pelvic area, prayer, hypnotherapy, rebozo, therapeutic massage, acupressure, acupuncture, moxibustion, hot baths, and the Webster chiropracting technique (7 visits!). Not to mention we talk to her and explain what she needs to do. We did all these things for about 3 weeks straight. The only things we haven’t done were homeopathic pulsatilla and external cephalic version. I’m not a candidate for ECV because of my front-lying placenta. After looking at my list, I realize we’ve done everything. If she was going to turn, she would have. And if the Lord still wants her to turn, He can certainly make the path clear for her to do so between now and tomorrow morning. Until then, all I can do is get my bag packed, get my Ipod full of Bob Marley, and go read a book.
The question is, how many casseroles, banana breads, and other things can I make and fit in the freezer before next Wednesday? It looks like I might be scheduling a c-section for Wednesday…!!!??? How do I feel? Weird, nervous, scared, happy, and more. The doctor said he wouldn’t care whether I wanted to wait for labor or schedule…except that he will be out of town for several days starting next Thursday. Her lungs and all her systems are as ready now as they will be. Her due date is next Thursday. The possibility of her turning vertex is very slim. I could schedule a section for Wednesday and then I may go into labor before that. But I would like for this dr. to perform the surgery if I’m going to have to have it. I asked the dr. all kinds of questions today because I am nervous. The main things I’m nervous about is 1) feeling myself go numb from the spinal, and 2) not being able to breathe while I’m on the operating table. Zach and I still have to make a decision for exactly how we want to do this.
I’m watching the price is right. It is great fun!
Oh, the nurse came in and said, “Here’s your flu shot” Didn’t even ask me if I wanted one before she stuck my arm. Kinda weird.
Here are some pictures from the surprise phone shower from my college girlfriends:
Here’s a few pictures from another surprise. Aunt Judy (Zach’s aunt) and cousin Rochelle sent a box full of wrapped presents. What a fun thing to open! The outfits are really cute and unlike any other baby clothes I’ve gotten so far. This kid is going to be so well dressed!
Please pray that we know what to do and that I don’t spend the next week being a nervous wreck. In scheduling a birth, it is easy to think we should have everything ready and planned and perfect for her arrival. But, I have to remember I don’t have to. What should Zach and I do this weekend?
Hi everyone. Nope, she is still head up. And Melissa, I’ve heard that inversions are good, too, but I think that’s for a little earlier in pregnancy. I think the most upside down I should get is on the ironing board. Plus, I don’t know how we did headstands as kids…I think our heads were harder. Or maybe we just didn’t weigh as much. I’ve tried a few headstands as an adult, and I felt like my head would explode. I suppose if you do yoga a lot, you learn how to deal with it?? Anyways, still going to the chiro. It has been 5 visits, and I am beginning to get discouraged about its success. Plus, it’s getting expensive. I think I should give it to the end of the week and then call it quits. I have scheduled my free pregnancy massage for Thursday morning before my appointment. Honestly, I think that will do a lot to help baby turn. I will be relaxed and loose, giving her the room to move. I think after years of doing ab work and holding a good posture, all my ligaments are just too tight to allow her to move much:-)
Back to weekend fun. Zach’s mom and dad came by for a quick visit…we ate pumpkin lasagna, went to church, went to a chinese restaurant, took them to see Zach’s office and the exterior of the house. Zach still had to grade some, but we were able to have a good time together. Also, they brought some fresh tomatoes and peppers from their garden, along with about 30 apples from their apple tree. They are good and crispy! Rose and I made an apple pie using whole wheat flour and wheat germ…not the best crust, but the apples were good. I think I’ll make applesauce/butter in the crock pot now. There is no way we’d be able to eat all of them out of hand.
Another thing, our dishwasher is not working. It is amazing how out of whack your life gets when you’ve got several days worth of dishes in the washer…I’ve called maintenance but they can’t tell me when they’re coming. But if I’m not here, they can’t come in because they won’t come in with an unattended animal (Teddy). And we put his kennel away because it takes up too much room. So, I can’t do laundry because each cycle takes about 4 hours and you can’t run the dishwasher and the clothes washer at the same time…and if the maintenance guy comes during the time I’m doing laundry, that will cause a situation. I know all these problems can be solved, but not without extra effort, and I’m not sure what to do sometimes…
We’re still waiting for bbwhalen to do the fliperoo. But, yesterday, I had a thought which seems so simple, yet is doing wonders for my attitude: Why not enjoy all her little antics in the womb…the jabs, slides, pressing against my bladder and diaphragm and ribs all at once? She will only be in this “place” once in her life, and it seems like she’s enjoying it, so why shouldn’t I? Instead of being despondent every time I feel a movement and it not being “the big one,” I’ll just be glad that she’s content and happy where she is. I feel that I’m just now getting to know her…
Zach update…I realize I haven’t posted about him for a while. He is very busy but was able to enjoy some of his new Xbox 360 last night. That was supposed to be a Xmas present from last year, then it was supposed to be a graduation gift, then it was supposed to be a “starting the new job” gift. I guess it’s close enough to his b-day to be a birthday gift. But, it really doesn’t matter. I’m glad he gets to enjoy it. He’s pretty behind on grading, and it’s because he feels he needs to grade the big projects before attempting to grade the smaller quizzes and blogs. It’s just hard to start in on the big ones. I think he’ll be gone most of the day grading. And he’ll probably be grading all weekend, too.
I received a special surprise last night from my college girlfriends…a phone baby shower! Edith, who lives here, came over around 8 last night and brought in several presents and an angel food cake! Cynthia, Melanie, Leigh (and her mom!), and Annie had sent presents to Edith in the mail, and she brought them all over for me to open. They were all on the phone when Edith arrived at the door. They also went together and got us a few big ticket items: a stroller frame (the carseat just sits in it) and a Moby wrap (a big sheet of material that holds the baby very close to the body so you are hands-free!) I got a ton of cute baby clothes, a Marcy Schlansker original blanket, a homemade nursing cover, and a few little baby toys. I am so blessed to have friends like these. It was totally unexpected and fun. Zach helped keep it a secret…he and Edith planned it all out. Thanks everybody!!!! Oh, mom, there ARE pictures, but I haven’t gotten them off the camera:-)